As I embark on the wonderful world of toddler hood with my son, I learn more and more every day how to find some inner zen, not freak out over the little OR big things, and to figure out new ways to hide the veggies.
But one thing I don't think I am doing so well at? Teaching my son not to hit. Yes, I have to admit it: I have a hitter.
In ways, I am glad he is not the kid getting hit, so in a way I am happy he stands up for himself. Like yesterday at the park he hit a kid BIGGER than himself. Yea, my Little Dude sticks up for himself very well when the bigger kids run him over.
But what about when the kids haven't done anything to him? Like at the park, the bigger kid had actually done nothing except play with some mulch. Little Dude marched across the playground and let that kid know that the mulch was his and his alone. Thus, Little Dude was in huge trouble, had to say sorry, and then had to come home and not play at the park anymore.
But how can we prevent the hitting? What can we do? We do discipline him quite well, I think. Mostly time outs, occasional, rare spankings (like if he runs into the road, or tries to get a knife out of the drawer and other such very dangerous activities that apeal to him...) and losing toys. Those all work pretty well, except with the hitting.
When it comes to hitting, Little Dude will show remorse, and even tell us if his trains hit each other (because in pretend land they sometimes do..) and then he puts them in time out and takes away their toys(stick with me, we are in pretend land). Anyways, he KNOWS it is bad, that he shouldn't do it, and that there is punishment. Yet, he continues to do it, and sometimes unprovoked.
So how do I go about teaching him stick up for himself, but at the same time teach him not to hit? Any ideas? I think we will get it under control as he gets older, since he is only 2 and a half, but still, if anyone has any ideas that might work, I would love to hear them. I certainly don't want my sweet Little Dude to be the playground bully!