tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-708927889597194611.post6721074516384632397..comments2023-06-22T11:03:15.216-04:00Comments on Coordinated Chaos: Hitting is a NO NOMichehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09943079762244070030noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-708927889597194611.post-59507715369185846052009-04-03T00:55:00.000-04:002009-04-03T00:55:00.000-04:00my daughter hits too. I think sometimes it is out...my daughter hits too. I think sometimes it is out of frustration because she can't communicate what she is feeling. We are workin on it!Banteringblondehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10847077574352295035noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-708927889597194611.post-68222250992939125142009-03-31T10:26:00.000-04:002009-03-31T10:26:00.000-04:00This comment comes without any judgment whatsoever...This comment comes without any judgment whatsoever. Children hit because they get hit. Children give timeouts because they get timeouts. They copy their parents in every which way, and we alone have the power to change. :)<BR/><BR/>Having said all that, my son, at 13 months (the child has never received a spanking in his life) started hitting people for a brief period of time. You cannot punish a 13 months old child. He won't understand. (Of course punishment generally defeats the purpose of what you're trying to say to your child) With him it still helped to flatten his hand and stroke the person he just hit. The phase was over quickly.<BR/><BR/>Your son understands talking. Communicate with him. Not just by saying, it's not okay to hit. Offer possibilities of communication, that he hasn't figured out yet. Kids are bright, they get it, when we are serious about stuff. :)Utehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16652604425012130772noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-708927889597194611.post-87562168403092243262009-03-30T15:32:00.000-04:002009-03-30T15:32:00.000-04:00Maybe hitting is the only way he knows how to rele...Maybe hitting is the only way he knows how to release his anger. That's really all I can think of. <BR/><BR/>As a parent, I got really excited when you said you disciplined him for his hitting. Hitting in general doesn't really bother me. Kids are kids. They are going to do it. What kills me is when parents just sit back and don't do anything at all. I can't tell you how many times I have been to the children's museum or the park and have all the kid's running wild. Why aren't their parents watching them?!?!? That is why hitting continues to beyond the age it should. So keep up the good work!! (and sorry about my little rant there)Alexandrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15826906767935455854noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-708927889597194611.post-70657971285478375552009-03-30T13:38:00.000-04:002009-03-30T13:38:00.000-04:00Michelle, it sounds like you already have a good d...Michelle, it sounds like you already have a good discipline plan in place. Ethan didn't really go through the hitting stage, although his 1 year old sister now is. :( But, I will say sometimes, there's not a whole lot we can do when kids go through these different phases. Except of course, to be consistent so they know this is unacceptable. Kids are smart and they'll learn sooner or later. Hopefully, sooner, for our sake! Ethan is in the very whiney phase right now and I'm just trying to stick hard to my discipline and tell myself it will soon end!Stephanienoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-708927889597194611.post-40579855809794292222009-03-30T11:50:00.000-04:002009-03-30T11:50:00.000-04:00So I'm sure this won't help, and I have no good ad...So I'm sure this won't help, and I have no good advice, being childless and all but it reminded me of a funny story...<BR/><BR/>When I was about 17, I babysat for a family at church. I had been watching them for years, since the youngest was about 18 months. When he was about three, he became a biter. I was teaching him to swim one day at the pool while his mom watched his two sisters nearby. He decided he was done with swimming lessons and so he bit me on the arm....hard. Without thinking about it, I bit him back. :) Not hard or anything, but it shocked him and he ran to his mom crying that "caitlin bit him". His mom looked at me, looked at him, and asked if he bit me first. He said yes and his mom shrugged and said "well, thats what happens when you bite." When he walked away she looked and me and laughed so hard she cried. He never bit anyone again. :PCaitlinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08629209099602123113noreply@blogger.com